Organizing a funeral is a difficult job. When you are sad and stressed out, your personal emotions might affect your judgment or decision. Having a service held is good choice in order to make the process bearable. The firm that you will choose will influence the proceedings. Thus, choosing the right firm is a must. This article discusses some of the pointers that will help you in your decision making.
Often, decision making is the responsibility of the deceased’s next of kin. The first step is looking for a funeral director. It is important that you and your director understand each other well. Arrangement conference is a must before signing a contract.
Job Role of a Director
The director will take care of all the legal requirements or paperwork, coffin, the body and viewing of the body. The type of ceremony and venue that you want will be considered. You will also decide on the coffin purchase, hearse rental and time schedule. Even if you hire a director, it does not mean that you will not be responsible for anything. The director will ask you a lot of questions. It is important that you prepare your answers in advance because your time will be limited. He will come to your house to do the interview.
The most important thing to do when looking for a director is to check if he is a member of The National Society of Allied and Independent Funeral Directors (SAIF); being affiliated with The National Association of Funeral Directors (NAFD) is also a good sign. Members of these associations are required to meet certain industry standards.
This is an important factor when deciding which director to select. Usually, the price is around $2,500 to $2,800. This price includes the hearse rental, staff, coffin purchase and the storing of the body.
Other optional services are always available. The disbursement costs will vary based on whether you select a cremation or burial. This includes general memorial expenses (minister, priest, etc.), burial ground feeds and doctor’s fees. Directors should abide to the SAIF and NAFD pricing standards. If a company goes above a specific threshold, it will lose its membership. If you are suspicious about the payment procedures or pricing structure of a firm, you should consult its governing body before making any payment.
Burial or Cremation?
This is one of the important decisions you should make. You should abide by the deceased’s wishes if he has made any whether it is written in his will or made verbally. If you do not have enough money, cremation is recommended since it is generally cheaper than a burial. The director can help you in decision making by giving the cons and pros of each procedure.
If you prepare for your Q and A, you can make an informed decision about anything. Be sure that you are specific and detailed when making a decision. Do not let your director pressure you to make choices that you do not want.
Order of Service
This is your responsibility. Even though it is the job of a director to make sure that the event follows personal, legal and religious guidelines, you still have a choice to set the order of service. It is important to get this right so that you can decide the right way the service will be conducted. For instance, you may choose between a more formal ceremony and a celebration of life type ceremony.
The Eve of the Funeral
Often, family members and close friends meet up the night before the ceremony to grieve together. Spending the night before consoling, laughing, crying and talking can make the actual ceremony easier to bear. It can also be considered a way of having a bonding session.